Don't give up you'll get it and in the meantime Chore Boy is your friend. Check the front edge of the brass to see if its shaving lead when seating the bullet. I had a redding seating die that was removing the flare as soon as the brass engaged it. I couldn't see it with my naked eye but I sure could with a 10x eye loupe. Dove me nuts for weeks until I figured it out. I size .452 for a .451-.4515 barrel, Carnuba Red lube and crimp only enough to remove the flare .474-.4745. I crimp with a Lee FCD but I just barely bump it or it will resize the bullet to .451. I also used to size to .453 and went back to .452. I use a MP 200 gr H&G 68 clone with a 1.255 COL to just engage (pilot to) the rifling.